My Father, My Friend: Lessons on Life and Love

By David Chadwick

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A collection of short, anecdotal life stories on marriage, parenting, personal counsel, relationships and faith. Chadwick reflects on over five decades of learning from his dad.

Key Takeaways/quotes:

Oftentimes, pain (1) forces us to realize just how little in life we control and (2) leads us to give ourselves to others (the latter of which is, ultimately, God’s plan for us all).

“Don’t worry about what people are thinking about you. They’re not thinking about you at all. They are too busy thinking about themselves. People will suck you dry, taking all that they can, oftentimes without a “thank you.”

No matter their age, tell your kids how proud you are of them.

Success doesn’t define who you are. (“You are who you are, not what you do.”)

“Friends are like elevators. They either take you up or they bring you down.”

“When you’re late, you’re stealing people’s time.” Everyone has the same number of hours and minutes in a day. Respect other people’s time.

“The most important shot is the next one.” When you make a mistake, own up to it, quit it, and forget it. Move on (but try hard not to make the same mistake twice).

Everyone needs to be ready to apologize.

“Shoot for the stars. You may only arrive at the moon, but you’ve never been to the moon before.” The joy is the journey, not the destination.

People are fickle. In other people’s eyes, you are only as good as your last success. Don’t search for acceptance or worry about rejection.

“Don’t ever feel hopeless. If the sun comes up, there’s always hope.”

On criticism:

Criticism always comes. Thank the person for the feedback, discern if there is any truth, change what needs to be changed, and let go.

Most change invites criticism. People prefer comfort.

“Dogs only bark at moving cars.” No one ever criticizes something that isn’t moving ahead.

God doesn’t see you as who you are but who you can become.

Every defeat is an opportunity to learn. “Man proposes, God disposes.” “Adversity is life’s university.”